I’ve always felt like I needed to be there for people even when it sometimes was at my own expense. I’ve learned over the years how detrimental this can be to even someone without an mental illness. Learning to say “no” or accept that other’s decisions are not for me to control helped me accept that I can’t be everyone’s savior.
Dealing with a mental illness can make you distrust your own thoughts and others as well. You may have tried to express yourself in the past and were shut down. This is why it is so important to find your voice. You have a say in your treatment so it is important to have this trust with the professionals in your support system. You have the right to express your thoughts and feelings to others. Your voice matters and if you haven’t found it yet, I hope you do soon.
There is so much out of my control, that I just have to accept it. This can be a hard pill to swallow, but the realization and acceptance makes changing things I can control easier. Thoughts may come, but I can choose how to react. Situations may happen, but I have the right to detach or disconnect if I can. And if I can’t, I try to manage until I can. This is all general because we all have ways to cope, manage, but yet hold ourselves accountable for what… Read more Holding myself accountable →
For me it was hard to accept. Finding peace with your past. Managing symptoms in the present. Planning for the future. These all require time. I expected everything to be “fixed,” not truly understanding time. The patience, the work, the setbacks, etc had to all be accepted for me to fully grasp the magnitude of my mental illnesses. How have you viewed time when it comes to your mental illness?
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The detachment from reality can come in many forms. Personally, right now for me it is memory lapses and time. This is why I have a million notebooks, journals, pads, etc because the thought of the lapses causes anxiety. If you have issues with dissociation, what have you found that has helped you?
I’ve talked about this before, but I can’t reintoriate how important this is for me. Especially since worrying about my anxiety causes more anxiety! I know my triggers and I understand my symptoms, but I have to find the balance to not allow it to consume me. I used to be so focused on recovery that I barely enjoyed life trying to secure the bubble I established. The point of my coping mechanisms was to allow me to still enjoy life but to still have an action plan for when… Read more Fear of relapse →
You can’t miss something you never had right? You can’t experience loss if you never started right? Those were the justifications I would tell myself to not get attached. This could mean something as tangible as a person or abstract as an idea. Detachment probably saved me from a lot of heartache but probably also halted me achieving so much more. I’m allowing myself to feel all emotions and accept most things because I understand now how my temporary emotions are.